What parents must know about their child's personality
When children are little their parents and family members start giving their opinion about children personality. Many parents feel their children are shy or introvert or some feel their children are easy going and extrovert.
While these personality traits helps parents for better upbringing of their child. It takes time for developing child true personality. As said, good understanding of child personality at early stage may help parents for using right technique for raising their child.
How temper pant is different from personality.
Since childhood, parents may have a clue about their child personality, like some infant crave early while others want flexibility. As per research and psychologist name early clues as temperament.
Babies naturally have some temperament but that may not convert into their personality and you should approach Positive Parenting to develop your children personality.
In totally personality is an individual overall behavior, emotional and the attitude. Most psychologist believe that an individual personality observe over a course of years. Sometime a child behavior influence with other personality. This behavioral response started showing at age of 11-12.
True age of child personality emerge
At age of 3-5, child will display his personality traits; in fact people learn some traits in first month of their life. As child started being active, people will see them independence, as they grow up by time they will be more social or shy as per their personality.
As child started observing outside world, like going school and making friends, they personality stared emerging.
Different type of personality traits in children
The most common personality theory foscus on five key personality traits
This trait is known by someone who is good decision makers, responsible and working on long term goal. These people need less supervision for any undertaking.
Such people are social and pleasant to interact, work towards helping and cooperate others. They also show their affection more often.
3. Openness to experience
In this person is willing to experience new things, stimulate their mind, sense and enjoy things like, art, music, dance and reading. They also see newness in their day to day life.
People who tend to display negatiuve traits like guilt, anger, anxiety; stress and depression face difficulty in their day to day activity. People with high levels of neuroticism generally respond poor to stress.
These people have high energy levels and enjoy being around other people unlike introvert who like being by themselves.
How parents can adapt to their child's different personalities
Every child is different from others strength of a child's could be a weakness of another child's.
A few tips parents can use to adapt are:
1. Study your child's personality.
The best way to understand child personality is to observe his/her behavior. Try to understand the activities they enjoy, understand their energy level, tolerance to frustration and their reaction to changes.
2. Appreciate their individuality.
It is hard to accept for people that their child is different from what they expected. Mostly parents throw their wishes on child to accept, better to accept their personality as it is.
3. Show empathy
It is important to show some empathy to your child's like and dislike and find ways to avoid conflicts and find a solution to solve any conflicts arise.
4. Separate your needs
People needs may be different from their child's like and dislike, some parents are extrovert and their child is like introvert. It is best to adopt your child as an individual and respect their choices.
5. Advocate for your child
There are many people who advocate child's actions and personality, better avoid them. When someone judge your child, it is important people feel their child comfortable their and maintain trust of child.
How to test your child's reaction
The below five traits are levels on how your child reacts to routines, familiarity and other things. Each of below levels is present in every child, only difference is how they expressed.
1. The intensity of reaction
Many children react a lot while some reacts none. Some children shout in excitement or when they are happy, while some throwing things when they are angry.
1. If you have a low- key child
- Try to engage your child in other activities that encourage them.
- Keep doing things to generate attention like music, dance and dramatic voice.
- Make your child active.
2 if your child throws tantrums
- Try to avoid loud music and lighting.
- Get the child proper sleep few extra hours.
2. Level of activity
Some kids are more energetic like we running at early stage of life while others like to sit and play where they are. Each child has own energy level.
3. Tolerance to frustration
Some kids are self motivated to achieve their goals while other kids give up early.
4. Gauging response to change
Few children adapt changes in their life very lightly, while others may get distract with small changes like placement of furniture in their room.
5. Gauging reactions to new people
Most children may get disturb when they interact with new people, it is hard for them to accept meeting new people, while others easily get involved with new people.
Observing children behavior and their day to day activities may help parents to understand better their child personality and temperament. Raising child is not so easy but once people get understand their child personality they can easily get involved with them and make them good individual.